“But, how are you really doing?” #MentalAwarenessMonth

May is “Mental Health Awareness Month” and given the current state that the world is in, we are ALL way past due for a mental health check.

So how are you doing? I mean reaallllyyyy doing? And I am asking the real you. Not you as a mom or wife or the rock of your family. Not the you that has to hold it together because you have so many people depending on you and a To-Do list a mile long and bills to pay. Strip away the titles and reasons why you can’t feel the way you feel and tell me how you’re really doing. Not so well? Yeah, me either girl. So let’s work on that, together.

Lately I have felt my mental health being on the decline. With every blessing that I’ve been getting lately there has been bad news soon to follow. And although that’s life, I can’t help but feel worn thin. Life is rough enough when you have the option to forget your cares for a while at a Happy Hour or Brunch but unfortunately that won’t be an option for a while. And since the corporate office at Target still refuses to put a bar in any of their stores we’ll have to figure out other means of maintaining our mental well-being. So I’ve put together a list of 5 things I’ve been doing to incorporate self-care into my daily routine.

1. Prayer and Morning Devotionals. Girl I pray every day. Every single day. And I try my best to start and end my day with prayer and daily Devotionals. As a Christian I find it so important to seek guidance from God each day and to take on the day in his strength and not my own. I use the Bible App to do my daily Devotionals each day because of the wide array of Devotionals they have. But whether you practice a religion different from my own or no religion at all it is important to ground yourself each day in your truth.

2. Maintain A Gratitude Practice. There is so much power in counting your blessings. Taking note of what you’ve accomplished in life and the beautiful occurrences in day to day life helps so much with shifting your perspective. And once you have a more positive perspective on your life overall, your mental health will improve tremendously. Some people like to keep a journal but even taking time to verbalize what you’re grateful for each day is a good practice to keep.

3. Exercise. Okay…okay, hear me out. I know this sounds crazy but exercise really does improve your mood! The chemicals in your brain called endorphins are released whenever you exercise and those are your body’s “feel good” drug. Not to mention you’re moving closer to whatever body goals that you’ve set for yourself so that’s a bonus. Here are a couple quick exercise videos that I’ve been doing.

Mom Pouch Be Gone

Round Booty Here We Come

4. Adult Coloring. Yes! One of our favorite childhood pastimes is perfect for relieving stress. I find it so therapeutic to color. I feel like I’m bringing a dull black and white picture to life and seeing my masterpiece is so rewarding. There are tons of physical coloring book options for purchase on Amazon but if you want an option that is readily available whenever you feel that panic attack coming along, these are the apps that I’ve been using.

Happy Color

5. Talk to Family and Friends Regularly. What is life without the people you love? I am my most happy when I’m talking to my loved ones. Laughing is definitely my favorite past time and I have the most entertaining tribe on the planet. No matter what challenges or rough days I am facing I can count on them to brighten my day. Whether we are taking trips down memory lane or poking fun at each other, it is always a blessing when we connect.

6. Bonus Tip: Drinking Coffee. *Pauses for dramatic effect. Mamas everywhere rejoice! I have recently found out that drinking coffee has been linked to lower rates of depression, according to Mental Health America, and it’s a shame that this news has brought me this much joy! So now when I’m on my third cup of coffee to keep up with my wild two year old I can rationalize that it’s good for my Mental Health and you can too. You’re welcome.

While I love to lighten the mood in my posts and provide my readers with a light hearted read most of the time, I feel it important to stress the importance of seeking professional help if you feel as though your Mental Health has declined past a point where you can regain your footing on your own. There is nothing wrong with seeking out help from a physician or licensed therapists to talk to you and walk you through options such as medication or therapy sessions. Many Mental Health resources are paid for by insurance, I know first hand. And there are other free options available as well.

1. Suicide Prevention Hotline

2. The Samaritans

3. Crisis Chat

Please remember the importance of your Mental Health. As mamas and women in general we tend to put ourselves on the back burner, we are naturally selfless. But you can not be the best mama, wife, daughter, sister or friend if you are not the best version of yourself. Don’t forget you. ❤️

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Hey, I’m Syd! I’m a proud Wife, Mama and Christian. I started this blog as a passion project. My own little corner of the internet where I could brain dump. I’d like to think of myself as equal parts Black Girl Magic and Suburban soccer mom. In other words, you can easily find me rocking my kinky-curly fro, blasting 90s R&B music on my way to enjoy some Me-Time with a Starbucks at Target. If any of that makes sense. My hope is that you’ll visit often to keep up on how I’m navigating Motherhood and that my mishaps and lessons bless you in some way.

13 thoughts on ““But, how are you really doing?” #MentalAwarenessMonth

  1. Love, Love, LOVE THIS !! Mental health is something we often don’t think about cause we are all trained to just keep it pushing especially in the black community. These tips , especially the coloring, is something I definitely do even while at work lol and it really helps ! I’m so happy you mentioned therapy, it’s really important and i hope people seek professional help with these everyday battles. ❤️ Lovely Read

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  2. Mental health is just as important as physical health. I really want to normalize therapy & mental health days from work & adulting. We have so many stressors today, I feel like most people are working on autopilot and are becoming numb to what’s going on around us. Love this post! You know I’m the self care queen so this one really hits home for me. You can’t take care of anyone unless you take care of yourself first ❤️

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  3. Girl, this was sooooo GOOD! Yes, yes, and YES! My oldest is 5 1/2, and I just recently discovered the importance of mental health. I loved how you put it… Strip away all the titles and the brave face you have to put on, and how are you really doing? That’s good stuff!
    I can relate to your list on so many levels, as so many – if not all – of them are ways that I too pour into myself. (I am SO with you on the needing coffee!! *takes another sip of coffee and continues typing*).
    Thank you so much for sharing your heart!!


  4. I have suffered with different mental health issues since my adolescent years, but go through pretty bad episodes of perinatal depression. So needed to read this today! Thank you for your vulnerability

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    1. Thank you so much for being so open. Motherhood is so hard with the fluctuation of hormones and it leads to so many mental health issues. Especially depression. I’m so happy that this post helped you in some way. Keep pushing forward and being an amazing mama.❤️


  5. Love these tips! I seriously have been struggling extra hard during the pandemic to stay sane. We have lost our life boats as mamas and it feels like there is no where to turn. I appreciate these tips and have been trying to incorporate some of them into my life already, but a few I didn’t think of I will take on for sure. Thank you for sharing and stay strong mama!

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